Why Stand By a Liar?
Updated: Jun 27
“Why are you diminishing yourself by trusting liars who have no respect for themselves but also made you feel unworthy?” You ask in worry.
An interesting question in need of a truthful answer since the Truth (the opposite of Lie) in moral philosophy stands as a major column.
How about I start with a fundamental question? Why people lie? Is fear the main reason for all evils that appear in our lives? The fear of being judged could compel someone to escape the truth, to give half of it, or even twists it completely? Would we excuse a lie that serves a higher purpose?
People deceive when they want to grab something from others because they don’t know another way how to get it. People make promises knowing that they cannot keep. He is married, and not brave enough to tell the truth that he wants to have fun in life but also to stand by his wife. The fear of losing her makes him jump from one lie to another until one day there will not be clouds enough to hide the mountain of lies built by his actions.
Yes, it bothers me, although I know that the lie in itself is not a capital sin but the crooked way to achieve the object of the sin. In nutshell, a Liar is not to be feared, he lies because he lacks the energy to achieve his aim in the real world, so he achieves it in the imaginary one.
Things and relationships are made for a reason, to serve something or someone. Sneakily taking them will serve the need to be held in the storage among the other possessions but won't serve the purpose of their creation. Storing things and relationships is useless and madness which in the civilized world we call it a Hoarder.
"Why some people live in a civilized society and act as jungle's predators?" you wonder by adding, "although nature has imposed stricter laws in the jungle."
Formulating the question differently such as, why do people break the rules? I would say, perhaps to overpower others, to serve a higher purpose, or to prove the dysfunction of the rule.
Triumph by deception has been used by politicians’ lawyers or generals. But, triumph at any cost, historically, has not been able to stand in time. The Watergate scandal will forever taint Nixon’s presidency. On the other hand, the European families who lied to Germans seeking Jews to execute, "No there are no Jews in my home" are still honored because they lied for a higher purpose, to the risk of their own lives for saving the guests.
Heroes never lie. Their actions have paved a brilliant path toward peace and wealth. The Christian martyrs during Roman persecution accepted to be burned alive for not denying Jesus Christ. Emperor Diocletian, who couldn’t perceive the power of truth, astonished declared: "I don't understand these people dying of stubbornness".
Back to the main question, why I keep standing by people, who act unconsciously?
You would do the same if you knew that a liar is not dangerous in front of a smart self-centered human being, he is to be helped or punished if consequences are disastrous.
Becoming a crystal mirror for a liar, so that he can see his actions through it will also teach you, patience and goodness. Walking away is also an option especially when the liar worn you out. Here goes Jesus Christ's well-known counsel, “Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.”
Baby, no worries no one can make me feel worthless, but, me. Due to constant life experiences, I know by heart the way out from the dark moments of weakness or people.
Living the truth kept me well-connected to myself and my inner being. Remember, only the truth can set us free, in case the freedom, joy and wealth are what you aiming for.
When you say that people never change, neither the liar, I say I don't want them to change I want them to understand their actions.
I’m not here to change the world. I'm here to understand it and to feel its entire existence, even its contretemps.
P.S. A Heartfelt Thank You to my friend Argus for the wider view of the subject and my niece for pointing out the topic.