We all want to live a happy life.
We spend most of our lives chasing what’s better, bigger, and more promising. And that’s beautiful. At the end of the day, we’re all seeking the same thing, which makes us true heroes and winners.
However, we don’t always know how to be happy. The problem is that we want life to be easy. We want positive outcomes that are satisfactory and promising. We don’t want what’s tough. We don’t accept what’s tough because tough is scary. It turns our reality upside down and throws us off course. It threatens our happiness.
I’ve recently realized that the biggest threat isn’t life; it’s me. It’s what I think about life and what I expect from it. I have contributed to my problems and pain more than once, but now I know that if I want to live a happier, better life, there are some things I need to come to terms with.
There are things we need to accept, no matter how bad or dissatisfying they are. If we don’t, we will always be miserable. We will only be chasing an illusion—not true happiness.
Are you willing to accept these six things?
1. Not everyone is meant to stay in our life.
It’s natural to think that every person who comes into your life will stay. I think this has been the most demanding thing I have ever had to accept in my own life. I’ve learned the hard way that some people cross our paths and keep walking. Holding on to people will only hurt us more. So, appreciate the lessons and the connection, and find your purpose without them.
2. We don’t always get what we want.
What we want is different than what is meant and good for us. I know it’s hard to believe it or even think about it, but coming to terms with this truth can save us a lot of pain. The only thing we can do is take advantage of every single opportunity that comes our way. We should be grateful for what we have instead of wishing things were different.
3. You will make mistakes.
Making mistakes is inevitable; everyone, including you, will make them. The problem isn’t about making them, though. It’s about how we look at them. We tend to give ourselves such a tough time for making the wrong choices, and we must stop. Making mistakes is part of learning and growing. We can’t tell what’s right and wrong if we don’t go through both.
4. People won’t always do for you as you do for them.
Realizing that I can’t control other people’s loyalty and behavior has set me free and made me feel much better (and ultimately happier). When I treat someone a certain way, I don’t expect them to treat me the same. We have different characters, personalities, upbringings, and love languages, so it’s crazy to think someone will do for me as I do for them.
5. Things change.
Always. If we want life to get better, we must understand that life is constantly moving. I know how safe and predictable certainty is, but I also know how wonderful “the new” is. Walk with life, not against it, even if it feels scary or messy.
Do you accept yourself as you are? Do you often forgive yourself and practice positive self-talk? Do you believe in yourself? Are you kind to yourself? How do you deal with your inner critic? Before coming to terms with anything in life, we must come to terms with who we are. We must love ourselves unconditionally and become our own friend—not enemy.
What else would you add to this list? What do you need to come to terms with?
AUTHOR: ELYANE S. YOUSSEF